Self love is a wonderful concept and something we hear about often, but how do you actually "do" self love? And why is it so important?
In my experience, the only thing that really heals is unconditional love. The parts of us that are wounded or abandoned need acceptance and love in order to heal and return home. Part of the embodiment process includes welcoming the rejected parts of us back, which results in a greater sense of wholeness and integration.
As helpful as love and support from others is, often the love we most need is that of our deeper being. Our own presence can be our best medicine on the path to wholeness. I find that applying love liberally is the best approach. Every time any discomfort arises, I like to embrace it with love. This includes physical, mental or emotional discomfort. Pretty much everything responds well to love, so you can't really go wrong. As we respond with warmth to that which arises, a kind of alchemy happens and the pain, discomfort, judgement, etc., lessens and ultimately turns into peace.
So the next time you feel out of sorts, I invite you to try a dose of the medicine of your loving kindness towards yourself.
One day while guiding a friend in this approach, a process spontaneously arose which I've started calling "hug yourself". I find it very effective and have heard from others that they do as well. If you'd like to try it out, you can access a short recording of the Hug Yourself process here which will give you a taste of the wonderful embrace of your own spirit. You can find this and other meditations on the Audio page of my website.